From timid southern church boy to non-binary storytelling witch

I was born on a warm Friday afternoon in August of ‘88 in Jackson. Tennessee, not Mississippi. It's a small city in between Memphis and Nashville. The first 10 years of my life were spent on a horse and hay farm out in the middle of nowhere. I grew up Pentecostal, and yes, I spoke in tongues. I was only allowed to listen to Christian music and watch Disney movies. So how did I get from that innocent little boy to the Queen I am today? Easy answer. Theatre.

I have been singing in the choir and acting in church skits since I played baby Jesus just a few months after I was born. I had no idea how to act but I loved the feeling of telling a story. When I was 10, my mom, sister, and I moved across the state to get away from my abusive father. We stayed in a women’s shelter for a month in Johnson City. One night, we were given comp tickets to see  A Midsummer Night’s Dream at ETSU. From the moment the faeries appeared onstage, I was hooked. The power of Oberon, the beauty of Titania, and the magic of live theatre uplifted my family while the rest of our world was falling apart. That night I saw that theatre can be more than just fun little skits. It can heal.

JJ with his Mom, Sherry, and sister, Whitney soon after moving to Johnson City.

The next few years were a culture shock to me. Going to public school for the first time definitely opened my eyes to more than I probably needed to know. I’m pretty sure I learned every curse word in the English language within a week. (Though I’d never say them around my mom for fear of literally getting my mouth washed out with soap.) Before I knew it, I had learned all that my public middle school had to offer and was off on the grand adventure of high school. That meant I could finally take theatre as a class. And, wow, I was a bad actor! I prepared for school auditions by watching film versions of the plays or musicals and tried to imitate the actors. I may not have been good, but at least I had heart. I helped out backstage with every show and competed in every forensics competition. In the middle of 10th grade, we moved to Gainesville, Fl and I was cast in my first musical. My geeky, chunky, awkward 15y/o self play Uncle Wes in Footloose. My poor mom barely saw me the rest of my high school career due to shows, thespian competitions, and anything else a theatre kid could get into. As I dug myself deeper and deeper into theatre, my church life and personal life were starting to clash. I realized that I was different around the time puberty hit. Well the Pentecostals don’t like the gays, so my youth pastor tried casting the gay demon out of me at 16. But that’s a whole other story. I wasn’t much for church after that.

After graduating as an Honors Thespian, I decided to go to the best theatre school in Fl, FSU. As an undergrad in the BA program, I don’t think I learned anything about acting. I learned how to work on the technical side of things. I learned that 16-18 credit hours was too much. And I painfully learned how to say no. I tried to work on every play I could but ended up falling behind on my studies. I flunked out and went on a depressive spiral that made me think I had failed at life.

JJ & family

Gainesville, Fl.

Yes, the shirt was bought before coming out of the closet.

Birthday Party for 3

The Three Musketeers were always together.

Most of my 20’s were spent working in minimum wage jobs and working in community theatre. I moved to Orlando and started working in food service at Disney. Eventually I moved to attractions and was a Safari Driver at Animal Kingdom. While it was a ride, I felt like I was acting every day since I got to be a part of the story. I also got hired into seasonal entertainment at Universal which means I scared people and marched in parades. All the while I was acting in, teching for community theatre shows, and learning how to be a drag queen all over the area. Somewhere along the way, I became a better actor. In 2015, I had enough of living paycheck to two days before paycheck and knew something had to change. My mom suggested I move in with her in Pensacola and go back to school. “For something you can make money in this time like nursing...” So I did. I went to Pensacola State College and passed all my pre-nursing classes with flying colors.

Diszy Trailz and Erika Fury (JJ) at Pulse Orlando

In 2016, tragedy struck. One of my favorite places, a place where I met most of my chosen family, was attacked. 49 people died in the attack on Pulse, some of which I knew. The reality that any of us could be taken at any time made me think that maybe I should be doing the things I love rather than something that will make money. I was in a production of Shrek at the time, and the next rehearsal was a music rehearsal for the song “Freak Flag.” It felt like the universe was telling me to wake up and follow my dreams! I immediately switched my major to theatre and it seemed like the universe smiled on me. I did well in all my classes, got lead roles in plays and musicals, and was invited to apply for quite a few schools from my Florida Theatre Conference college auditions.

One of those schools was Atlantic Acting School in New York. By this time I was 29 and I thought that if I didn’t go to New York then, I was never going to go. In 2018, I packed up and escaped from the South. Life in New York was definitely a culture shock, but I have never felt more at home. My time at Atlantic has taught so much more than I thought it would. Not only about acting, but also about myself. I have and am still learning that failing is not a bad thing. Failure is a chance to try again and do better. So that’s where I am now. Recently graduated, trying to be a better person, and ready to create.

 

From Farm Boy to City Queen!